Miss Monce

I was nine years old when we first met.  She was in her sixties.   She was a tiny little lady, somewhat elfish in appearance.   Miss Monce was always impeccably dressed in silky dresses,  some with large, lacy collars.  On one foot she wore a laced up orthopedic shoe and a brace; on the other foot, always a lovely slipper or shoe, quite stylish.  She wore long nylon stockings even over the top of her brace. She hobbled more than walked, but with surprising speed.   Her nose was prominent and pointy and her graying hair was pulled back neatly into a bun at the nape of her neck.   She was always cheerful and eager to greet me.  When she spoke, despite the fact that her language and speech was quite formal, you knew there was nothing to fear.  You also knew that she was in charge.

Her hands were lovely, with long elegant fingers which could fly over the piano keys at an alarming pace and could play many difficult works.   She was a graduate of The Cincinnati Conservatory of Music and lived with her parents who must have been in their 80’s when I first began to take piano lessons at their home.  Her father wore a three piece suit complete with a pocket watch and fob.  Her mother dressed in dark dresses, long stockings and sturdy-looking shoes.  They would sometimes nod as I entered the house and then return to reading the newspaper.  The faces remain a blur to me;  I only glanced at them as I passed through the living area, too afraid to speak.  They sat quietly throughout the lesson, sometimes in the kitchen drinking a cup of tea or coffee, careful not to disturb.

The house was a big square house, with dark, beautiful woodwork, an open staircase, and formal furniture of the period.  Overstuffed couches and chairs, pillows with fringe, lots of lamps and dark tables covered with doilies.  Pocket doors made of beautiful polished wood would separate the parlor/piano room from the living room and front entrance.  I saw the kitchen only once in the 10 years that I took lessons there, and that was when I had a coughing spell and Miss Monce took me back to get a drink of water.   I never asked to use the restroom while I was there.  That would not have been appropriate.   I knew to come prepared for a 30 minute lesson with no interruptions.piano teacher

A baby grand piano sat in the parlor next to a window, which I found distracting.   I sat on the piano bench, window to my left, Miss Monce to my right.  When I first began lessons a small box of some sort was placed under my feet.   Miss Monce sat in a small chair so that she was almost at eye level with the keyboard.  She kept a close eye on the music and on my fingers and hands.  Keep those fingers arched.  Curved.  Don’t slouch, sit up straight.  She demanded respect and inspired high standards.  Her red pencil was ready, tapping out the rhythm as I played.

curved fingers

She would often play the songs that I was assigned for the upcoming week so I knew what they should sound like.  We would talk about the time signature, and the key signature, use of the pedals, any concepts new to me.  The next week, she expected the song to be presented without fault.   If I made mistakes, there was the  red pencil which circled the measure where the mistake was made.  To repeat a piece of music for a second week was failure; failure never spoken aloud, but understood even by a 9 year old.   I was often  expected to memorize songs and when I was successful, I was rewarded with her signature near the title of the song for all the world to see.  “Memorized”  it said.  A gold star often accompanied a piece that was mastered.  Occasionally  a song was not mastered.  There were no gold stars unless you earned them.  Sometimes we just moved on.  At the end of each book, a certificate of completion was filled out and signed and dated.

I had short  fingers.  Miss Monce often lamented about this.  I could barely reach an octave and she would often say “Oh if you only had long fingers you could be quite accomplished.”  She encouraged me to go on to music school, but it didn’t seem practical.  I didn’t have the dedication to become an accomplished pianist. I accompanied the church choir, played for church and Sunday School, entertained at intermissions at high school plays and musical events, played for 8th grade graduation and accompanied instrumentalists and soloists at high school music contests.  Later I played for Rainbow Girls, Church, and Grange.   I was pretty good, but not great.

I often felt as if I were her favorite student.  She pushed me into levels of playing that I would not have accomplished on my own.   She never doubted my ability to read music, interpret, and play.

When I was in high school, I began to lose interest in piano lessons.  Band, football games, hanging out with friends became more important.   I found less time to practice which she noticed.   It was a dilemma for me.  I really wanted to stop, but was afraid of hurting her feelings.  Also, I knew this was her only source of income.    I figured I could stick it out until I graduated.   Fortunately, she decided to retire at about the same time I was ready to graduate.  Her parents had passed away, it was becoming difficult for her to take care of a large house at her age and with her disability.   She had a sale of household goods and sold the house.   My mom and I went to the auction and bought a floor lamp.  It wasn’t the one I wanted.  I wanted the lamp that stood over my left shoulder while I played my lessons.  It had a pull chain and a lovely pink lampshade.  On dark winter afternoons, if there was not enough light coming in through the window, she would ask me to turn it on. For some reason, I loved that lamp, but I didn’t see it at the sale.  Perhaps she took it with her.  Before the auction and at the close of my final lesson with Miss Monce, she gave me a large cardboard box full of music, duets, and Etude magazines.  I noticed other boxes as well, probably destined for other “favorite” students.   I treasured that box of music and felt a bit sad.  The  lessons had been a huge part of my life.

After the sale, Miss Monce moved near Cleveland, Ohio. She had nieces and nephews and they wanted her closer to where they lived.

I think of her often and of the influence she had on me.  She helped me develop musical skills that stay with me still today.  She was a wonderful role model and when I became a teacher myself, I would often think about how she motivated and disciplined and helped nurture me along the way.

And sometimes, I pull out that cardboard box full of music that she gave me forty-five years ago and sit down at my little piano and play one of the songs she passed on to me.

box of music


About Life in the 50's and beyond...

Welcome to Life in the 50's and 60's and beyond .... where I write about my childhood memories, music of the 60's and about life in the country. I am a mother, grandmother, farmer's wife, business owner, and retired teacher.
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18 Responses to Miss Monce

  1. Steve Rabb says:

    You described Miss Monce to a ‘T.’ I took lessons from her in the 50’s after my first teacher, Mrs. Hatfield moved away. I lived right across from the Monce’s at the corner of Dixon and Patterson Streets. I still remember seeing and hearing piano students in the window during the evenings of short winter days and the warm glow of that lamp you described. She was a member of our church as well and introduced me to the pipe organ there. I’ll always remember Miss Monce. Many thanks for posting this beautiful article.


  2. Steve says:

    You described Miss Monce to a ‘T.’ I took lessons from her in the 50’s after my first teacher, Mrs. Hatfield moved away. I lived right across from the Monce’s at the corner of Dixon and Patterson Streets. I still remember seeing and hearing piano students in the window during the evenings of short winter days and the warm glow of that lamp you described. She was a member of our church as well and introduced me to the pipe organ there. I’ll always remember Miss Monce. Many thanks for posting this beautiful article.


  3. The arched fingers. Yes, your teacher, like mine, was of the German school of piano. The Russians taught you to play with straight fingers and a higher wrist.

    I still have quite a lot of music. I don’t play any more, but I enjoy looking at the music and I can still hear the music in my head when I see the score.

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  4. Karen says:

    Ruth, that was more than lovely! I was even sad to read of Miss Monce’s parents passed away for you were able to convey the closeness within her own family. I wondered how difficult that would have been. It was like watching a mini-movie in my mind. So lovely that you can do that for all of us. I would love to hear you play sometime too.


  5. LB says:

    Such a lovely story, Ruth. I was able to “see” Miss Monce, her parents, the piano, and that lamp. Thank you for sharing!


  6. Thank you for awakening memories of the elegant Miss Monce. I adored and respected the lady in the house on the corner. Other kids feared her and I would brag that I knew her personally. I certainly never wanted to disappoint but I am also certain that I did on occasion. One of my clearest memories now is that my father went home one night and mother asked where I was. He had forgotten to pick me up and I got 30 extra minutes with Miss Monce as she kept me calm. Thanks again for this special piece on this special lady.


  7. Luanne says:

    What a wistful story. I don’t think there are any Miss Monces any longer.


  8. Kathy says:

    Ruth, you captured her perfectly! I felt like I was sitting on that piano bench in her parlor once again. You even jogged a few memories free that I had forgotten about.


  9. Grace says:

    Lovely story, beautiful memory. Such a lovely read on a damp winter morning!
    ~ Grace


  10. My elderly piano teacher was Mrs. Wente. For a 6/7/8 year old boy to walk through the snowy country roads of Indiana almost a mile at 7:30am on a cold Saturday morning did NOT leave me very happy memories. She unfortunately was a complete opposite of Miss Monce – always yelling at us for not practicing enough, and not caring enough. Slap on the back of the hand when a bad note hit and all of that. I wish I had your Miss Monce.


  11. what a lovely story and memory…to have such influence…
    I hope we all can say that somebody was imprinted on our minds


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